"The fact is not a single person did challenge my beliefs? Where were they?.. Being respectful? If that is the case I hate them!"
It's not other people's job to talk you out of your stupidity. Only you can fix stupid....and it sounds like you have, in some respects.
However you blaming other people for your/our parents and your own stupidity for buying into it.....is frankly stupid.
It's like you drinking poison and hoping someone else will die.